Trans-Topic Thursdays! Voice! It can make or break you! (Not that you have to care!)

I found myself very torn this week between writing about the importance of your “Voice” and how if you decide you are or may be transgendered should be something you begin to practice above almost anything else in my opinion or….

Jump right into the “Mental Changes” Topic!

I believe I dropped at least some type of hints towards either of these in my last Trans-Topic post?

I felt like it was better to mix up the changes talk.

As you can see, I have since decided on Voice for now, so let’s get started!

(As mentioned at the start before the really unnecessary introduction…)

I’m not saying that your voice is solely one of the most important things to focus on. I do feel, however, that it is something that may tend to be overlooked more so in the beginning?

I say this solely based on the fact that a “brand new awesome female voice” is not something you can just magically obtain overnight.

It takes time, practice, and dedication.

Surgery options are available if you feel you may choose to pursue this route as an option in the future. I have read that even then it is highly recommended to still do some previous voice training before surgery. This is said to help maximize results. As with all surgeries, some degree of risk is involved as well.

Personally, I don’t feel the need to pursue surgery.

I, myself, was able to obtain a voice I was more than happy with after I’d say two years?

Keep in mind, this is a point when I would say I “tapped out” for the most part is all. Not to say that I don’t still feel it continues to be better all the time but just more in the sense when it peaked?

It takes a decent amount of time is all my point is.

Basic, I guess, science lesson for you?

(I’m certainly not going to 100% guarantee what I’m going to say but I would hope it’s fairly accurate from research I’ve done in the past.)

We all are both born with an upper and lower register that we use for speech. Most of us as children will all naturally speak in the upper of the two until puberty when males begin to trigger the use of primarily the lower register.

We are all capable of accessing these registries with time and practice. This training and/or practice should be taken very seriously or you may run the risk of straining your vocal chords.

(Pretty much just meaning you’ll have like a super bad sore throat for a day or two!)

A “mistake” you sometimes will see, is that some Mtf’s may try to talk using more of a “falsetto” type of speaking voice. Involving simply trying to sound higher or more “airy” if you will.

Let me stress this, now!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with this!

You don’t even have to do anything to your voice as far as I’m concerned!

By all means, you do you, kick it low or high, whatever works for you!

This is simply all just my opinion on something I know, for me, was very important not only for myself but my ability to feel comfortable with others as well.

Where was I…?

O, Falsetto!

This is not the style of voice that you should be striving for in your long term goals to sound more “feminine.” You can’t be afraid of the lowness or deepness of your voice.

If anything I say embrace that!

Seriously, listen to how your average woman speaks?

She’s not all light and nasally or up in her head!

She’s just talking and hopefully being awesome!

Training yourself to access and use this “upper register” as mentioned before will eventually lead you to not even thinking of how natural it is to just talk and be yourself. I feel like your inner “thinking” voice is an interesting example you’ll see change, as well.

I would honestly consider my voice to be my “saving grace” in my ability to “pass well” for the most part. Once again, not something you should need to feel any concern about! If it is, however, then it is completely within your reach!

Yes, it takes time!

Pretty much every second you get alone should be practicing time!

I would highly recommend finding training videos and other resources to help you. Both are fairly easy and accessible to find on your own. You can use ones that aren’t specifically “trans-related” that work just fine, too. I would say I used a healthy combo of both myself.

Still to this day I repeat this “Rainbow Passage” voice training exercise I’ve probably said like a million times!

(Along with plenty of various others….)

Another good thing to do is record yourself! I used to do this on my phones personal recorder for memos. Essentially almost every time I was in the car for probably two years? Let alone all the other times!

I feel like I’ve been making this sound like a grueling process but I assure you it’s not that bad! It may take time and effort but very little besides that in all honesty!

I know you can do it if you set your mind to it!

Or don’t!

That’s cool like I said!

I’m all for the mentality of people doing whatever they need to with their lives to be happy as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone!

Whether that is your voice or anything else!

I hope this was informative, interesting, and/or helpful for some!

As always, Thank you so much for reading!

“”by tanita1 is licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 2.0


8 thoughts on “Trans-Topic Thursdays! Voice! It can make or break you! (Not that you have to care!)

      1. Try not to worry so much, I promise I’ve probably heard much worse from others who share no similar concerns!

        I really appreciate it! I’m a super open person for the most part so feel free to continue in the comments or you can message me if you like!

        And thanks for calling me sweet! 😄

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  1. I transitioned five years ago, and the thing that gets me misgendered most often is my voice. I have a very deep voice (think James Earl Jones deep). I tried speaking in a higher register for a couple of years and damaged my vocal chords. I’ve tried watching videos online and they aren’t much help. I really wish I could find a professional speech therapist in the podunk town I live in.

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    1. I’m sorry to hear that! It really does takes massive amounts of constant work to be able to achieve such a thing usually. I started out extremely deep myself so I hope you are able to figure it out some day! 🤗


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